Comments on: Struggling… http://notameangirl.com/2009/10/16/struggling/ This blog is about my life. Its not always going to be light and fluffy. It will always be real. Thu, 22 Jul 2010 22:14:46 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: devyl http://notameangirl.com/2009/10/16/struggling/comment-page-1/#comment-3209 devyl Sun, 18 Oct 2009 06:15:28 +0000 http://notameangirl.com/?p=1166#comment-3209 **hugs** This is not going to be an easy journey, but your feelings are totally normal. Luckily, Shecky actually likes hanging out with dad & the grandparents. It is so much harder when the kids do NOT want to go but you have to have them go anyway. xoxoxoxoxoxoxo **hugs**

This is not going to be an easy journey, but your feelings are totally normal.

Luckily, Shecky actually likes hanging out with dad & the grandparents. It is so much harder when the kids do NOT want to go but you have to have them go anyway. xoxoxoxoxoxoxo

]]> By: Rachael http://notameangirl.com/2009/10/16/struggling/comment-page-1/#comment-3208 Rachael Sun, 18 Oct 2009 00:15:46 +0000 http://notameangirl.com/?p=1166#comment-3208 Yes. YES. It is so hard. I've been sharing custody of my youngest son (he's 4 now) for two years and it's still heart-hurting every time I drop him off with his dad. You'll be alright; what doesn't kill us makes us stronger, right? :) *hugs* Yes. YES. It is so hard. I’ve been sharing custody of my youngest son (he’s 4 now) for two years and it’s still heart-hurting every time I drop him off with his dad.

You’ll be alright; what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger, right? :) *hugs*

]]> By: Kay http://notameangirl.com/2009/10/16/struggling/comment-page-1/#comment-3207 Kay Sat, 17 Oct 2009 01:31:16 +0000 http://notameangirl.com/?p=1166#comment-3207 Even though I've never had kids, I really know what you mean. There is such a strong bond between parents and their kids that partings will always be sweet sorrow. If there is any degree of attachment between fathers and their kids, they feel the same- but many fathers haven't established an emotional bond in the first place. However,the relationship of the kids to each parent is EVERYTHING! These are their original bonds that they have to spend their teenage years trying hard to break or they will never be able to form new bonds with partners of their own! It is so central to kids, most mothers and many fathers that the breaking of a bond even temporarily can be a physically painful wrench. It 's all normal and it makes the world go round. Enjoy the love of your kids and be proud of them being so brave that they can take a break from one parent and be with the other a while! Even though I’ve never had kids, I really know what you mean. There is such a strong bond between parents and their kids that partings will always be sweet sorrow. If there is any degree of attachment between fathers and their kids, they feel the same- but many fathers haven’t established an emotional bond in the first place. However,the relationship of the kids to each parent is EVERYTHING! These are their original bonds that they have to spend their teenage years trying hard to break or they will never be able to form new bonds with partners of their own! It is so central to kids, most mothers and many fathers that the breaking of a bond even temporarily can be a physically painful wrench. It ’s all normal and it makes the world go round. Enjoy the love of your kids and be proud of them being so brave that they can take a break from one parent and be with the other a while!

]]> By: Bunny http://notameangirl.com/2009/10/16/struggling/comment-page-1/#comment-3205 Bunny Fri, 16 Oct 2009 14:45:02 +0000 http://notameangirl.com/?p=1166#comment-3205 oh yes, totally normal! I recall feeling very teary eyed the first visit ex had with kiddo. I was lucky & had a more gradual introduction with visits only being a couple hours in the early days. The first overnight was hard for me too, but my kiddo took it all in stride. ((((hugs))) Pamper yourself, watch a movie you wouldn't let Shecky watch, enjoy some adult time! oh yes, totally normal! I recall feeling very teary eyed the first visit ex had with kiddo. I was lucky & had a more gradual introduction with visits only being a couple hours in the early days. The first overnight was hard for me too, but my kiddo took it all in stride. ((((hugs))) Pamper yourself, watch a movie you wouldn’t let Shecky watch, enjoy some adult time!

]]> By: Sarah @ TM2TS http://notameangirl.com/2009/10/16/struggling/comment-page-1/#comment-3204 Sarah @ TM2TS Fri, 16 Oct 2009 14:38:08 +0000 http://notameangirl.com/?p=1166#comment-3204 Dad told me that it broke his heart every time he had to put us on a plane to send us to Florida to visit the DNA Donor. But we were gone for a month. I do remember the tears in his eyes when we flew back and I was 11 and 12 at the time. Dad told me that it broke his heart every time he had to put us on a plane to send us to Florida to visit the DNA Donor. But we were gone for a month.

I do remember the tears in his eyes when we flew back and I was 11 and 12 at the time.

]]> By: MissRiss http://notameangirl.com/2009/10/16/struggling/comment-page-1/#comment-3203 MissRiss Fri, 16 Oct 2009 14:19:20 +0000 http://notameangirl.com/?p=1166#comment-3203 Totally normal. That one rare occasion that Cletus came to Illinois and carted Mancub off to GA for a month, I was devastated. I stood in the driveway bawling. Mancub had his dad stop the car so he could give me another hug and kiss and reassurance that he'd be ok. He was all of 12 at the time. He didn't cry on departure, but he did when he saw me again for the first time upon return. Totally normal. That one rare occasion that Cletus came to Illinois and carted Mancub off to GA for a month, I was devastated. I stood in the driveway bawling. Mancub had his dad stop the car so he could give me another hug and kiss and reassurance that he’d be ok. He was all of 12 at the time. He didn’t cry on departure, but he did when he saw me again for the first time upon return.

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